As I Began to Love Myself
by Charlie Chaplin
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is AUTHENTICITY.
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody. As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me.
Today I call it RESPECT.
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life,and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call it MATURITY.
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm.
Today I call it SELF-CONFIDENCE.
As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.
Today I call it SIMPLICITY.
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for
my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew
me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude
a healthy egoism. Today I know it is LOVE OF ONESELF.
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since
I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is MODESTY.
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry
about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING
is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it FULFILLMENT.
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me
and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my
mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection WISDOM OF THE HEART.
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others.
Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born.
Today I know that this LIFE.
Sir Charles Spencer Chaplin, KBE (16 April 1889 – 25 December 1977) was an English comic actor, filmmaker, and composer who rose to fame in the era of silent film.
Chaplin became a worldwide icon through his screen persona “the Tramp” and is considered one of the most important figures in the history of the film industry.
His career spanned more than 75 years, from childhood in the Victorian era until a year before his death in 1977, and encompassed both adulation and controversy.
Some words and a story
After a hard day that was meant to change Papion’s life, he didn’t tell the butterfly a thing about what had happened, but asked her:
-Airam, how can I change myself, when I’m so afraid of losing what I have? How can I express myself to the others when they don’t understand me?
-Let’s take your questions one at a time, starting with the fear of losing. If you’re really satisfied with your life, there’s nothing to change.
You should go ahead with what are you doing!
If, however, you are dissatisfied with what you have and you want to change something, how can you be afraid to lose something you don’t like? So rather than assume certain risks, you prefer to accept a life of discontent?!?
As for the fear of losing, let’s imagine a thirsty man in the desert.
He carries a water container that’s so rotten that the interior walls are filmed with greenish bacteria. Outside it has been raining for some time. Just sitting with his mouth open, he fails to swallow enough water to quench his thirst. Because of his fear of running out of the water he carries, he refuses to spill it and he keeps the lid closed. During this time he wishes for a cup of clean water so much, and he keeps hoping that one will show up… but nothing. Instead, he keeps his mouth open, allowing the raindrops to enter, but he doesn’t manage to appease his thirst.
If he wants fate to smile at him, wouldn’t it be better to understand that it is unlikely for a clean cup of water to appear out of nowhere? Wouldn’t it be easier to empty the one he is carrying, rinse it clean, and let the rain fill it? asked the beautiful lady butterfly.
-Yes, of course, he’d do that, the last fool would do that! No one would hold the lid closed, keeping water that doesn’t serve them anymore, Papion answered. -You know, the one who is afraid that the rain might stop, the one who doesn’t know how long the rain in the desert lasts, the one who doesn’t understand that at that moment the rain is his salvation wouldn’t give up the water in his container! -Okay… but I was talking about life in general.
-And I tell you: Your life is like a container, and you are not satisfied with the contents!! You need to open the lid—that is, to open your mind and remove from your life everything that harms you, and make room for everything you want! You see, we’ve got the wrong idea about what it means to give up. We don’t understand that when we take responsibility for giving something up, we’re just making space for better things that life can offer us!
-And if one aims too high? If his aspirations are really high?
-It doesn’t matter how high you aim, it matters that you understand that in order to succeed, you need lots of practice!! Only if you continue to improve yourself will you succeed! But you need to keep trying until the day you make it!
-All right, but how about waiting for a time when you’re more prepared?
-The best moment to do something with your life is NOW!!! You can’t just sit around and wait for things to change. Inaction is the worst thing for someone who is not satisfied with his life!
I recently received a box with a Tibetan talisman from a dear friend. An image of Buddha and a lotus flower were painted on the box, along with this statement: “ There is nothing more constant in life than change.”
Dear Papion, I really think that life is constantly changing and it all depends on your choices. After all, everything is a choice!
In this moment, you choose to listen to me or not.
You choose whether to act or not!
So remember: Don’t believe everything will remain the same if you do nothing; on the contrary, life goes on! It’s up to you to determine whether your life will be as you wish, or if you will live forever with emptiness because you won’t consider your feelings, your dreams, and what you can become.
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“Promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.
To make all your friends feel that there is something in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best and expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.
To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.”
Christian Daa Larson
1874-1954, New Thought Leader, Teacher, and Author